How To Have An Affair

If you’ve landed on this page, then I’m guessing you’re at least considering having an affair but not leaving your spouse. Thinking about having an affair is a tough choice and is quite personal..

There are multiple reasons for someone to think about cheating – it may come in waves for a few, and yet for others it can be a constant, persistent feelings… one that you can’t shake no matter how hard you try.

If you’re considering having an affair, you need to really be honest with yourself. You need to figure out exactly what your true motivation is for going down this path. If you’re going to go about having an affair, you can’t sugar coat it. By lying to yourself, you will only hinder your end goal and end up with a whole lot of guilt, not to mention you will end up getting caught in your attempt at having an affair.

What you should first consider if you are going to have an affair and cheat discreetly is whether the reason you are stepping out on your marriage is due to sex or sexually related thoughts/feelings.

Sex is something that makes us feel good. There’s just no doubt about it, it ranges from the euphoric emotions that come with having sex, to the entire game that’s played to seduce, to having someone flirt with us, etc. These feelings tend to really pump us up, especially when you are in marriage that’s stale, tiring and just not going well. It’s easy to think about having an affair at this point….

Sex makes us feel good on multiple levels. It’s not just the physical part. The entire range of euphoric emotions that come with feeling aroused play a huge part in the satisfaction that we get from sex. It’s fun to seduce, and it’s fun to be seduced. It makes us feel good again.

Unfortunately, in this day and age, happily ever after is just something that does not happen often.

If you’re going to have an affair then it’s important to find the right people to have a discreet affair with. You want to find someone who will make you feel good and who will fulfill both your emotional and physical needs.

Now, if you decided that having an affair is the right step for you, there are a few precautions that you should take:

Hide All Transactions

Do not use your credit card, especially if your spouse has access to the credit card statements. Even if they don’t typically check the statement, all it takes is one time and you can get busted. If your significant other or spouse sees a purchase that seems odd, it’s going to start leading to a spiral of lies. There’s a much better alternative if you don’t want to carry cash and want the ease of a credit card. Buy yourself a Prepaid Visa/Mastercard Debit Card.

Since this is not a credit card you do not need to worry about any type of credit check or approval to receive the card. These cards are just like regular credit cards and thus will be accepted anywhere a Visa or Mastercard can be used. You can load money on them as necessary, either by phone, online, or various sales points. No need to worry about a statement getting sent home with these cards which improves your chances of having an affair without getting caught.

Have an Alibi

One of the most common ways of getting caught in an affair is to get caught in a web of lies, starting with your whereabouts. Once you get caught in one lie, your partner will be suspicious of your future movements and will make having an affair much harder. You should always try to revolve your alibi’s around some sort of truth. For example, if your job revolves around you traveling to different cities, then having an affair while on the road for work is extremely convenient and makes for a good alibi.

On the other hand, if you tell your significant other that you need to go away for work, when in reality you are just going for an affair, you are exposing yourself to getting caught. In cases like this, it’s important to have as much backup as possible to make your alibi realistic. This means having receipts for food, hotel, etc. Alibi Network is a full service online website that offers you with every imaginable alibi out there. They can assist with fake phone calls, as well as travel receipts, itineraries, and more.

Your alibi needs to be air tight if you don’t want to get caught while having an affair.

Phone Records

Your call history and text message log can expose your affair to your significant other. It’s been estimated that approximately 30% of those who were cheating were caught through a spouse checking the cell phone. Just think of Tiger Woods and how he got caught. If a spouse is suspicious that you are having an affair, the first thing they’ll check is your cell phone to try and catch you red handed and it’s hard to come up with an excuse for any ‘sext’ messages on your phone. All it takes is one slip up of forgetting to delete your messages or call history to get caught.

The BEST method to not get caught having an affair by your significant other is to never use your cell phone when communicating with your cheating partner.

So how should you communicate? There are several options:

• Get yourself a prepaid cell phone. With these types of phones, there’s no credit check, no annual contract, and you can refill minutes as needed . You can change phones as needed, thereby getting a new phone number whenever you want. Make sure though that you find a good hiding place for your phone and if you hide it at home to make sure that it’s turned off when you aren’t around. John Edwards was caught because his wife heard his second phone ringing and picked it up.
• Another alternative is to use a call forwarding service such as Google Voice or Ribbit. With these systems in place, you can send your love a text message that will only appear within the Google Voice or Ribbit system, leaving no trace on your personal cell phone. Also, when the person you are having an affair with calls your cell phone, you can set it up so that a generic number from one of these systems will be left on your cell phone, instead of your lovers, so that if your spouse does get a hold of your phone and tries to call these unknown numbers, they will only end up calling you. Finally, you don’t have to worry about your lover’s number showing up on the phone bill!

Hide Browsing History/Online Activity

Newer browsers have a great feature that allows you to browse the web using a private browsing mode. With this mode, none of the sites you visit gets saved in your history. If you do anything that’s related to having an affair such as e-mailing your lover or visited sites dedicated to helping you cheat (Ashley Madison, Lonely Housewives, etc.) then make sure you cover your tracks and use the private browsing mode.

You should also make sure that you create an e-mail address that you use solely for mailing prospective partners or your mistress. Use this e-mail only when in incognito mode on your browser that way you hide any evidence of e-mail communications with your lover. A suspicious partner will go to great lengths to try and get into your e-mail account!

A great video for those that have questions/thoughts as to cheating, have an affair, infidelity and more.

 

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