In recent years dating has been completely revolutionized through the use of online dating sites. Dating is something that has always been a tricky thing to get right for many people and with so differing advice being offered from all directions, it can often be very confusing. The world of dating has become an endless minefield of what ifs and how to’s. Figuring out what to say on your online dating profile, how to get it right during your fist date and then beyond is essential for a successful relationship to bloom. So what is the best way to act and what should you say on you online dating profile?
Online Dating Profile
The main reason that I think dating sites can be a difficult place to find a truly suitable partner, is due to the entire selection and elimination process that one must work through to meet a match. Choosing an potential mate online via a dating site is strange concept in itself as we are only judging people by the mere words they have selected to write on a webpage. There is of course many people have found a match online, but for most I believe it just leads to disappointment. The main problem with these things is that all profiles are contrived by their very nature. You have to write in such a way as to entice in potential partners, but in doing so you have to try and make yourself sound interesting and fun. This leads to a whole world of clichés and generic phrases to make people sound laid back and interesting. This is why so many people experience disappointment when they actually go for the big meet up. The person may have been able to write some interesting phrases on the computer, but is seriously lacking in personality in real life.
First Dates
First dates are notoriously disastrous! You can read a hundred different articles on what to do on your first date, or how date successfully and you might hear a hundred different techniques. Whatever happened to just being yourself and acting in a manner that you feel is right? Planning things to say, chat up lines and other nonsense is surely not going to impress anybody and can make you look and feel slightly contrived or fake. If you are a naturally funny or witty person, you will not have to go out of your way to ensure you crack jokes or make your date laugh as it will happen organically and that is because it comes naturally to you and this will be reflected in your demeanor. If you have prepared something to say and do not feel comfortable in such a situation, then pulling out a cheesy chat up line will not work in your favor. I believe that people should try to be themselves when dating and hopefully things will work out great, and if they don’t then they were obviously not meant to be. There is no magic formula for it.
Many of the best relationships just happen without any of these processes and are much more organic, such as two people meeting under a low pressure situation through a mutual friend, at work, in the supermarket or at a club where they simply hit it off. This is how dating should be, as it is not forced upon you and the relationship will stand the best possible chance from the beginning.
This guest post was written by Abigail. She is a freelance writer and designer who is currently studying Forex and Canadian Mutual Funds.
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