In our previous post, we discussed how to get a guy that you like to ask you out on a date… but perhaps you want to know the guy’s level of interest in you before you pursue him, in which case it’s important to understand how to read both his body language and actions to determine whether he’s into you or not.
1. He moves in closer
Closing the distance is a clear indicator of a desire to have more intimate contact. If the guy you like and who you want to ask you out on a date moves in closer, inch by inch as you talk or sits beside you in a booth at a bar then this means he wants to get more intimate with you and is looking to be more than just friends!
2. Posture
At a distance, if a guy frames himself and stands erect, you should take this as a sign that he’s trying to attract you. However, as the distance closes and you two are in close proximity, watch to see if he softens his posture (ie, if his squared frame sort of caves in) when he’s talking to you. This inidicate that he feels comfortable being around you and is yet another sign he’s into you via body language.
3. He talks slowly and softly
When a man is attracted to a person of the opposite sex he will typically talk more slowly and softly. This is his way of letting you know that what he has to say is for your ears only. He will also do this as to appear confident in himself, hoping that you find this quality attractive in him.
4. Pay attention to his eyes
Eye contact is one of the primal ways we use to express our feelings such as desire, love, and joy. If the guy makes eye to eye contact with you (in an uncreepy way) using a lingering gaze, then it means that he’s into you. Make sure to return his eye contact so that he knows his attentions are wanted.
Also check to see if his pupils dilate as their size react to two things: light and attraction which is due to a biological reaction beyond our control. If you notice his pupils dilating or that he’s blinking more than normal, it’s a clear body language sign he’s into you. The reason for this is because adrenaline is being released which is the same physiological process that makes our hears pump faster and makes us feel weak in the knees!
5. Raised Eyebrows/Flashes a Smile
One of the universal signs of interest in the raised eyebrow which signals attraction. This sign exists is all cultures and some experts believe it is the single most recognized non-verbal sign used by people to greet each other. If we are attracted to someone, we’ll let our eyebrows fall and rise subconsciously. This sign can be hard to catch though as the entire process lasts less than a second.
Also, if he’s the type of guy that normally doesn’t smile but lights up when he sees you then you should take this as a positive sign.. but beware if he’s the type that smiles a lot, as his smile then might be his way of greeting you.
6. Preening
If he smooths his lapel jacket, adjusts his tie, tugs on his socks, or does any other preening gesture, then it means he wants to look good for you and the only reason he’d want to do that is if he’s into you.
7. Gifts/Compliments
Sure a guy might lavish you with gifts or shower you with compliments and only think of you as a friend. However, when you combine it with the some of the other signals listed above, this can be taken as a sign he likes you. The more meaningful the gifts and the more sincere the compliments, the greater the indication of just how much you mean to him.
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Hey. Euchanté this guy knows I like him and shows all the sighns but he gets really shy and then talks to me like one of the guys what does that mean?
Hey. I like this guy. He likes me. I told him I like him and he gave all the signals that ge is interested into me.. All his friends say ” you should go out with her man” or “u two look great together” (these are his close guy friends and no I never told them to say that stuff)
I really like this guy he’s sweet. Nice. Funny. Athletic. He has the whole package and ppl knows that he likes me and that I like him and yesterday I heard that hes going to think about asking me out (I heard it from a couple of ppl) PLEASE HELP (: thank you so much and follow me on twitter: @NylajaAli
I really like this guy and he’s shown lots of the signs. I don’t know him very well yet but he’s helped me once or twice. in one class we were talking about people we liked and he didn’t say he liked the pretty girls! I think it’s because he likes me. I’m not sure though. Also I know he’s single. He’s smart cute athletic but nit like obsessed. He’s everything any girl wants! Please help me get this guy! (did I mention I’m 13 and so is he and that a few weeks ago I had a nasty breakup?) o well thanks SO much!!! luv ya! Xoxo-alicia
Hey! My name is Aisha and i have a huge crush on this guy at school. we had this pep ralley and we are on the same team so when he saw me he winked. Through out the whole day he was looking at me and he even stood next to me and gave me 2 high 5′s what does that mean? does he like me?
There’s this guy I really like. He’s in my grade and he’s 14 (born in the summer of 97) and I’m 13 (born in spring of 98) and we’re already friends. I’ve liked him ever since i saw him a 7th grade open house last year. Last year for band we went to an amusement park, and he choose to stay with me instead of some friends and he gave me his tokens at the arcade so that i could get a better prize. He also rode on a ride with me where the momentum caused us to slide into each other (and he knew it too). On this ride his phone fell out so I tried to catch it and missed (:P) and so i stayed with him to get it and he was like thank you for waiting and almost hugged me like he moved to hug me and then stopped as if he wasnt sure how id react. He also tells me things that bother him and that he’s worried about. In algebra if he catches my eye he does that eyebrow/eye reaction and smiles. I want to be his girlfriend but I’m still unsure if he likes me! Please help! Anyonew is free to reply unless they’re gonna be nasty. Thank you!
Ok… I like this guy and we keep flirting back and forth… I really really like him and i want him to ask me out but i don’t know how to get him to!
well, the boy i lik has don most of these things an told me he likd me but that wus lik 8or9 weeks ago an he stil hasnt akd me out…?
this guy shows me all the signs – i really like him, he told me once that he likes me too he’s told all my friends he ‘really’ likes me he tell’s them that he is thinking of asking me out and stuff – when we are together we walk around holding hands hugging and being really close i tell him everything and i would like to think he tells me everything but the fact is we’re not officially together – some guy inbox him on facebook giving telling him to stay away from me when he told me i told him he was i my ex and i didnt wanna have anything to do with him and he said dont worry i trust u but yet today he was like oh your body language is telling me you want to me in a relationship with me ??? and it’s like what the hell i thought we was together ?? i dont know if we’re dating or not we spend all our waking moments together when people ask me if he is my boyfriend i never know what to say .. i really like him .. but he won’t ask me out :/ is he just messing with my head or are we dating ?? i have no clue ??
I really like this guy but I don’t know if he likes me or not and the bad part is he is my friends brother and I don’t know if it would ruin my relationship with my friend or not if I did go out with him.
Hey, I like this guy, he’s cute funny, but kind of shy. I told him I liked him, but he said he wasn’t ready at the moment. Im not sure what that means but he likes to text me, and talks to me in class a lot. He never rejects to me to go out. What sort of signs are that?? Thanks
There’s this guy in one of my classes and he seems to really like me…which is good because i like him too. He always lights up when i talk to him & vise-verse & we’re really comfortable with each other. You can literally FEEL the tension (good tension i must say haha) in the room & its cute. but its bugging me if we should go out or not or keep getting to know each other? we have alot in common but we’ve only known each other for a few months. what should i do? because we really do enjoy each others company!!
There’s a guy who likes me. He won’t ask me out because he’s afraid I’ll say no. Now, he’s going out with another girl. Help?
Hey, I have a BIG problem. There’s a guy in my tutor and I know he likes me (his mates keep informing me and so does this year 11 who he sits next to in tutor,this year 11 keeps giving the guy tips bt he just responds with “she’ll say no”). I really like him too but hes so shy he cant bring himself to speak to me cause he goes red when he talks about me and will probably do the same when he speaks to me. Its agitating though cause he’s always looking at me and trying to talk to me e.g. he walks up to me, says my name – i turn round and he goes bright red. wtf!!!x I get nervous too but I am trying to find a right time to speak to him, i see him like 4times a day (weekday) and Im gunna try on Monday aslong as the weekend goes well – something happened between my best mates and a friend of his and i was going to bring it up with him in tutor without making it obvious (e.g. NOT GOING RED!) ahhhh help me please! (and any ideas how not to go red!). (and i have to wear uniform to school)